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How Best to Approach your Partner about your Household’s Credit Card Debt
You may have a good idea about how to budget your income and pay off your credit card bills; but your spouse or partner may not be on board.
In order to make the most out of your income and live without mountains of credit card debt, it only makes sense that both partners must find a compromise between what is spent and what is paid each month.
If you have a spouse or partner who is unwilling to go the distance to get your credit card debt in check, then it may be time to be a bit more creative when it comes to negotiations.
- Don’t approach the conversation in attack mode. If your partner feels that he/she is being attacked or accused of accumulating the bulk of the credit card debt, he/she will certainly react by becoming defensive. Instead, approach the conversation using “we.” For example, “We should come up with a game plan for reducing our credit card debt so we can begin saving for a home.”
- Include your partner in on the discussion. Instead of approaching your partner with all the answers, encourage him or her to become actively involved with finding a solution. You can certainly come with a list of ideas or suggestions; just avoid being the one with all the answers.
- Sweeten the pot with a little incentive. You may try something like: “we could begin to put money aside for that Caribbean cruise if we just pay off this credit card debt first.” Having something to look forward is often a good incentive for paying off credit card debt.
- Put it in writing so there are no misunderstandings or miscommunication. Detail clearly what is expected of each of you so that there won’t be any problems down the road. If you are both income earners, detail what portion of each paycheck should go to paying off the debt. You may also want to discuss the ways in which you can begin cutting back on your spending. But, once again, make sure you approach this conservation in a calm, non-confrontational manner so that you can better accomplish your overall goal of living debt-free.